Do You Need A Plan To Rescue Your Relationship?Author: +Freddie Cook
It’s hard to come up with anything in life that doesn’t benefit from following a well laid out plan. Everything from building a house to organizing your next vacation, even a decent meal turns out so much better if some sort of blueprint (recipe) is followed.
The same is equally true for relationships, especially ones that are in trouble. A plan, where each step is laid out, is a necessity.
Don’t believe me? Ask any marriage or relationship counselor. If you think they just ask you a few ‘off the cuff’ questions followed by a lot of listening and then magically come up with a solution… you’d be wrong.
Marriage counselors follow a well laid out plan to rescue your relationship, one that will let them get to the root cause of your problems, then they follow another well laid out plan to give you the possible solutions. None of it is guesswork.
On the other hand, most couples with relationship issues simply ‘wing it’ and then wonder why their relationship is showing no signs of improvement. Even when one of them is trying their hardest to to reverse a breakup and get their ex back, they usually go about it entirely the wrong way. They do it by intuition, or getting advice from their friends who have no more relationship expertise than they do.
So when you want to get your relationship together, start by getting a plan together first.
I think it’s safe to assume that everybody would agree there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. To be fair, there are plenty of couples that get along really, really well, but perfection simply isn’t attainable.
On the flip side, there are relationships that are so far from perfect that they are on the verge of collapse. If that hits a bit too close to home, then you may be in need of a plan to rescue your relationship from disaster.
While there are no perfect relationships, it’s a good idea to keep striving for perfection; to keep trying to improve your relationship. This is important because it puts the focus on the relationship. Couples need to understand that being happy together doesn’t just happen automatically.
Good relationships take work. So, if you want to fix a relationship that’s not doing well, then you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to make it succeed.
Let’s be blunt. It won’t be easy. It’s hard enough keeping a good relationship running smoothly, and if yours is in trouble, it’s going to be that much harder. But, as they say, all good things are worth fighting for.
Get ready. Roll up your sleeves. Let’s get started and put together a plan for your relationship rescue and get on the road to a complete recovery!
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and try to look at things as though you were an outside observer.
How would you describe what’s going on?
How are you at fault?
What could you do better?
What things are going well enough to keep you together for now?
The goal of questions like these is to help you see things as they really are.
In particular, you should concentrate more on you and how you fit into this relationship. What you bring to it and what you expect from it. You need to step back from the blame game. You will need to be positive going forward, and try to ignore all the negative bits.
Once you have an idea of what’s really going on, you need to talk to your partner. This can be very difficult. The key here is to remain calm, honest, rational and respectful. Do not let things get out of hand.
You want to avoid arguing at all costs. All you are really doing is presenting the facts as you understand them. You may be surprised to find out that your partner has been feeling the same way.
Now that you have talked to each other, it’s time to start making a plan to rescue your relationship. The plan you make will depend on your specific situation.
Every person is different and every couple is different.
While there isn’t one plan for a relationship rescue that will work for everybody, there are some good resources available that will be able to help you.
There are websites, books, guides, counseling and other things out there. However, none of them will do a thing unless you actually take action on what you learn.
You need to commit to whatever plan you agree to. It takes time and it takes work, but as your relationship starts improving, it will seem easier.
It’s so much nicer once you start seeing results. Results are a great motivator. Once you get a taste of how well your relationship rescue plan is working, you will want to improve even more…
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