Getting Your Ex Back Needs A PlanAuthor: +Freddie Cook
Whether you’ve recently broken up, or you’re afraid you’re on the brink of a breakup you can take heart, saving your relationship is possible and the remedy to get your ex back is at hand. You can reignite the flame the two of you once shared.
It won’t necessarily be easy or fast, but if you are committed to making it work there is real hope.
I’ve compiled a list of some of the things you need to do to salvage and repair your relationship and get your ex back. Keep these tips in mind when you are analyzing your relationship:
1. Do you really want to stay in the relationship? I know this may sound like a dumb question but sometimes when we think we want to keep our relationship what we really mean is that we’re afraid of having to find someone new, or starting over.
If you’re brutally honest with yourself you can determine if you really want to continue the relationship or if you are simply anxious of being alone.
Another part of this question is to determine if your partner really wants to work on the relationship with you. If you can work on it together it will speed up your relationship recovery and make it a more lasting one. . . It’s a whole lot easier as well.
Even if you decide that your relationship is worth saving and your partner doesn’t share your conviction or isn’t willing to invest the time and effort to work on your problems then. . . here’s a video that shows you how to deal with that too ==> The video
2. Honestly evaluate what went wrong in your relationship. Again, this is best done by both of you. This can be the hardest part, it’s always easier to blame someone else for the problems but it’s tougher to own up to your part in the break down of your relationship.
Before you can repair it you need to know, not only what is broken, but why it’s broken. The two of you may even benefit from a visit to a couples counselor to help you objectively work through this phase.
Although that is not usually necessary, sometimes having an objective third party with you can help you both stay calm and face things you may not have been willing or able to face on your own.
3. Try to remember what drew you to each other in the first place. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while you obviously loved and enjoyed each other.
So often in a relationship what happens is the ‘stronger’ one (or the most selfish one) controls the relationship. They become the one who tends to take more than they give. The other partner will take on the role of the giver.
Over time the ‘taker’ will get bored because the fun loving person they fell in love with has become a doormat and the ‘giver’ will get sick of not getting their needs met often enough.
If your relationship has fallen into this trap you both need to take a step back and remember what attracted you to each other. This might be a good time to not only remember but to tell each other all the bits you admire about them. Remind them why you fell in love with them in the first place, and vice versa of course.
Saving a relationship will take time, work, and commitment by both parties, but it can be done. If you think your relationship is worth saving and your partner thinks so too, then by all means, follow this remedy to get your ex back and you CAN salvage your relationship.
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