Steps To Get Your Ex Back

Author: +Freddie Cook

TendernessAs you have gone through a breakup recently, you would probably like to know how to restore the love in your broken relationship. Before we go into that though there are some things you really have to avoid like the plague.

Never try to get back AT your ex, don’t attempt to score points, it’s childish and fatal if you are serious about fixing your relationship, these feelings of revenge are more about the hurt you are are feeling and should be suppressed.

It is common for you to experience some form of depression just after a breakup, this causes confusion and an inability to focus on the problem clearly, emotions run much too high for you to be objective while this persists, the tendency is to do all the wrong things, like chasing after your ex, pestering them to come back, maybe begging for forgiveness or to be given another chance, perhaps even forgiving them for something.

Don’t, it won’t help you in the slightest, you will make the situation between you and your ex much worse.

Don’t do any of the things that your intuition and your mixed up feelings are telling you to do. Don’t go calling your ex or following them, or going to places where you know they will be.

Don’t remain at home all the time moping about and feeling sorry for yourself either, cry if you find it helps, just don’t overdo it and never do it in front of your ex.

Remember there are only 3 steps to get your ex back, just give them a try.

Accept the Break Up! If you want to get your ex back

The first thing you have to do is come to terms with your breakup, accept that your relationship has broken up. After all, this is the situation at the moment, denying this is not going to help, so try and recognize that and find some way to accept it.

When your thinking has settled down, go even further and tell your ex that you are alright with the breakup and allow both of you to move on.

This will have the effect of defusing the situation and open the door for friendly communication between the two of you. You both need time to examine your relationship separately, time to let all the tensions subside before any progress can be made.

Leave your ex alone! And get your ex back

As I said above, do not try and make contact with your ex, let some time pass and put some space between the both of you.

This probably won’t sit well with your intuition, but it is good breakup advice and a vital part of your strategy to mend your relationship, apart from getting things clear in your own head during this time, you are sending a message that you have moved on and are coping well with the breakup.

This allows your ex time to cool down and bad memories tend to fade with good memories becoming dominant, so time is your best friend at the moment, especially if you can remain friendly. Let your ex come to you, let them open the lines of communication.

Absence really can make the heart grow fonder, allow your ex to come to this realization themselves, let them remember how important you really were to them.

Form a plan to get your ex back

Plan for your next meeting, not when it will happen, but what you will talk about when it does happen. Aggression, blame, anger, revenge all have the same basis, they are all negative, you have to avoid any, and I do mean – any – negativity.

You will have to be positive in everything you say and do, you will have to remain upbeat, even humorous, try to be good fun to be with. Remember there was a good reason at one time for the two of you to get together in the first place, so try and be that person again. Be the person they fell in love with first time around, it’s just as likely to work the second time as well.

Relationships can be fickle things at times and so also can breakups, time and the right tactics will enable you to get your ex back and you will probably find if you do the above convincingly, that it won’t take that long.

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