Mending Broken Relationships And ReconciliationsAuthor: +Freddie Cook
I’ve written extensively about reconciling with your ex before, here’s one of the posts Plan To Rekindle Your Relationship And Fix Your Breakup that covers this important topic. It can’t be stressed enough how important a plan of action is if you want to be successful.
It’s not just a matter of getting back together again, lots of couples manage that part, it’s much more important to get things right so that once you do reunite with your ex, you do it in such a way that you rekindle the love and stay together by fixing whatever problems your relationship was experiencing.
Here’s another article that may help to illustrate the point and give you another way of looking at it.
Fix Your Relationship And Mend The Parts That Are Broken
The most common, and hardest to deal with, parts of a breakup are the pain and trauma you have to go through once the split has happened. There are few people who go through the ending of a relationship without being affected by it, some more so than others, but they are all affected to some degree.
Even if you both agree that the breakup is the best thing for both of you, it can still be very traumatic.
However, it’s much more common for one of you to want the breakup and the other not wanting it. The strange thing is that as soon as the relationship is dissolved your problems shift focus immediately.
Let’s face it, breakups happen because, for at least one of you, there are problems that haven’t been taken care of. But once you are separated, these problems are generally forgotten and the only problem seems to be how to get back together again. Your whole focus seems to be how to reunite with your ex.
Do you see what I’m getting at? The original problems are still there and they are the one’s that really need to be addressed first, before any attempts at a reconciliation is even contemplated.
And one more stumbling block is, before you can begin to sort out the real problems you have to get yourself sorted out. You need to be in a good place, one where you are relaxed and as happy as you can be, completely unstressed, if you want to be able to fix the problems your relationship had effectively.
In other words… get a life. Or more precisely, get your life back on track again. I know it can be difficult, when you find yourself suddenly single, to even feel like socializing but it really is the best thing for you.
Friends and family can be very supportive during times like this… so let them. The important thing is, until you can get relaxed, you will never be able to look at your broken relationship objectively.
And remember, your friends and family will not only help to keep you grounded, they will help to keep you distracted from all the hurt you are going through. Almost any activity that you can get immersed in will be of great benefit to you, so be imaginative.
Once you can get past the pain and trauma then identifying and dealing with your relationship problems will be a whole lot easier. If you can find workable solutions for what went wrong then you will have something concrete to approach your ex with.
It won’t guarantee that you’ll get back together with your ex, but it will go a long way towards some kind of reconciliation.
At the very least, you will have demonstrated that you really are sincere about working on your relationship and, in the process, show them that you really do care.
I hope that the article helps consolidate things a bit better for you, but in any case, I also hope that you see the need for a workable plan, one that you can truly rely on to give you the best possible chance to get your ex back again.
…to your success.
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