How to Make Your Ex Give In to You And Mend Your Relationship

Fixing Your Relationship

For this one, I’m going to let Clay Andrews himself tell you how to get your ex interested in you again. . . and how to fix your relationship so it will last. . .

What does it take for your ex to finally give in and give you another chance?

Well, that’s what we’re going to be talking about today.

What’s REALLY Holding You Back from Getting Your Ex Back?

You see, your ex has a certain set of beliefs about you and the relationship you had with them.

If your ex left that relationship, then there’s a good chance that those beliefs aren’t particularly good.

I don’t know the details about what happened, but whatever it was it left your ex with the impression that they are better off not being together with you.

What It Takes to Get Your Ex to Change Their Mind

If you want to change that you’ve got to give your ex a good reason to think that things are going to be different in the long run.

After all, your ex isn’t going to walk back into the exact same relationship that they walked out of in the first place.

Your Ex Needs a NEW Relationship

This means that you have to give your ex a new relationship.

The two of you can still be together in a relationship…

…It just has to be a new relationship.

New dynamics.

New abilities to relate to one another.

New connection.

New honesty.

New vulnerability.

Does that sound good to you?

Well, it probably sounds pretty good to your ex too.

Here’s the Thing Though…

Your ex isn’t going to believe this when the first see it.

It’s going to take at least a little bit of time for it to sink in for them that things are really different and you’re not just putting on a good act.

They need to Know your relationship has changed for the better.

So What Does It Take to Make Your Ex Give In?

Simply put, it takes positive change and consistency.

Those two ingredients will get your ex to believe that getting back together with you is a good idea.

Let’s Make a Deal…

If you’re willing to bring the consistency, I’ll help you with the change part.

You see, I’ve developed a series of Advanced Relational Skills that will help you show your ex that things are going to be different.

They help you connect more, bond more, and grow closer together.

But they aren’t going to get you back together with your ex unless they are consistently applied over time so that your ex really “gets” that this change is the real deal (and not just some stunt to “win” them back).

Inside the Ex Solution Program course, I’ll teach you these Advanced Relational Skills.

…But You’ve Got to Do Your Part Too

You’ve got to practice them consistently.

And when you do, that’s when the magic starts to happen.

If that sounds good to you, you can learn more about the Ex Solution Program or sign up right over here.


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Relationships Need To Be Balanced

Which Parts Of A Relationship Need To Be Balanced?

Author: +Freddie Cook

Relationships Need To Be Balanced
Relationships Need To Be Balanced
Balance is a necessity in any good, stable relationship, but it’s not always easy to achieve. Mainly because it means different things to different people and it can mean a lot of hard work and dedication.

In an ideal world it would happen automatically, and, to be honest, a lot of the time it does, but it’s human nature for each of us to want our own way.

Why Exactly Do Relationships Need To Be Balanced?

This is where imbalance in a relationship can occur, when one partner gets their own way more than the other.

And just to make things even more difficult, there are areas of a relationship where balance is not obvious and we don’t even think about it or notice that an imbalance is present.

We all have our differences and these will clash in some form or another. How you deal with these differences can be the deciding factor in just how trouble free your relationship will be in the long term. If you want to make sure your relationship will last for a long time, then consider these tips.


This is one of those areas I alluded to above, it’s not obvious that trust in a relationship should be balanced.

Yes, we all know trust is a two way street but we don’t all seem to know exactly what trust means. It’s therefore difficult to spot any imbalance.

Trust is not just about avoiding affairs or situations where an affair may be the outcome, there are other areas of a relationship where trust takes other forms. For example:

  • Keeping agreements that have been made with each other.
  • This includes making promises to each other that each of you keep, even if the promise itself doesn’t seem very important.

  • Being able to trust that your partner will back you up when needed
  • Loyalty is a very important part of any relationship, it needs to be demonstrated.

  • keeping appointments
  • Sounds silly I know, appointments?. . . it’s not a business. But being able to rely on each other, like being on time, or being in a certain place. . . is as much a part of trust as anything else is.

  • Telling lies (for any reason)
  • Even “well intenioned” or “little white lies” can erode trust. They may not seem much at the time, but they all have their effect on the overall trust in any relationship.

  • Hiding things. . . feelings, situations, events. . . anything, from each other
  • This really shows a level of distrust and should be avoided.

  • trusting each other’s reactions in certain situations
  • Almost like reading someone’s mind? Actually it’s more about consistency. If you can’t rely on each other’s reactions then it, again, highlights a level of distrust.

and many more, the point is that both of you need to be able to rely on and trust each other in all areas of your relationship to the same extent, that’s where the balance comes in.


The problem with communication in a relationship is that very often one partner manages to communicate their needs, wants and desires but fails to hear their partner’s. Or hears. . . but fails to act on it.

This is a very common imbalance that is very obvious to the partner that is not being heard, but the other partner is blind to it. Eventually, if it’s not addressed, it can be very destructive to the relationship.

Discussing grievances isn’t just a case of both of you talking about them, you both have to hear each other’s as well, and compromise is essential. Compromise is another part of communication and must also be balanced.


Saying “you’re forgiven” can be an easy thing to say, but truly meaning it and being able to forgive, AND then forget, is another thing altogether… it’s sooo hard to get this balanced.

You both have to be able to forget after forgiveness has been given. Which means never bringing it up again. If only one of you can manage this, then the imbalance will eventually take it’s toll on the relationship.

It’s also very common for one partner to be saying sorry more than the other. For example, after an argument, is it always the same one to apologize first?


One of the many problems that plagues couples is their inability to own up to their own mistakes. It’s very easy to criticize others and, at the same time, be unable to accept criticism.

Everyone makes mistakes, no one is exempt, and being able to admit that to others is crucial.

It’s not a weakness admitting you are wrong… it’s simply the right thing to do. The balance here is being able to accept and own up to your own fallibility as easily as you point out your partner’s failings to them.

Couple Time

Time together is very important. Life can take over if you don’t keep an eye on it. There are so many areas of life that demand attention where a balance has to be reached for a relationship to flourish.

Spending time together, sharing your joint lives is such an important part of a strong relationship, but it’s very often neglected, that’s the one area that loses out to the pressures that are put on almost every couple, and it’s not just work and money. . .

There are many pressures, including family and friends that can come between a couple, and these external pressures have to be dealt with to maintain the balance and keep the relationship healthy.


Being in a balanced relationship does not require any sort of magic, making it work is not rocket science and there are no secret tricks you need to learn. Mostly it’s common sense and understanding the complexities of a relationship.

It’s more about hard work and an earnest desire to make things work than it is about tricks. Sometimes you are just with the wrong person, other times you just need to put forth thought and effort to make sure everything works out in the end.

Balance is something you both should always be aware of in your relationship. Try and strive for an equilibrium in every area of your lives. You won’t always be successful, but the more you try, the more successful you’ll be.

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The Jealousy Relationship Breakup

Is Jealousy Always Bad For The Relationship

Author: +Freddie Cook

Tenderness and Jealousy Relationship Breakup
photo credit: pedrosimoes7
Sometimes, after a breakup, the one broken up with doesn’t agree the relationship should end and they try to make their ex jealous in an effort to get things back together again, but that’s not what we are discussing here.

This post is about the jealousy relationship breakup, which is often the end result caused by jealousy and insecurity in general. I’d like to point out first that jealousy isn’t always a bad thing and can help to keep a relationship healthy and strong. As the relationship breakup caused by jealousy is common, we seldom even consider that it can actually help in some circumstances.

If you think of relationships where jealousy only happens occasionally and isn’t all that strong, then it can help to prevent the couple from taking each other for granted.

It’s all too easy to become so comfortable with your partner or spouse that you don’t always consider their feelings, a little bit of jealousy can help couples to appreciate each other and make a conscious effort to make sure the other person feels valued.

Jealousy can also remind a couple of how much they love each other because when jealousy happens, both partners will become aware that their relationship is being threatened.

Now, this is okay if it doesn’t happen often and the feeling of jealousy doesn’t build to the point of taking over. The truth is, as I said above, that jealousy in a relationship is really the feeling that the relationship itself is being threatened, that you are going to lose something of value and you are going to be left alone, it becomes a kind of fear.

The more threatened you feel, the stronger the feeling of jealousy becomes. As jealousy increases, your confidence decreases. this vicious circle is what eventually causes the relationship breakup.

Jealousy can be an appropriate response to a partner’s behavior, we are not perfect, and as such, we do make silly mistakes from time to time, for example it can be very flattering when a member of the opposite sex pays us too much attention.

Again, if this happens only occasionally then it’s likely that no real harm is done, but if it happens on a frequent or regular basis then a very jealous response from our partner could be appropriate.

This would also signal that something deeper in the relationship was causing a problem, if the relationship is strong and healthy, there is little need to be flattered by someone else.

Jealousy Relationship Breakup – Not Justified

Having said all that, the biggest threat that jealousy causes to a relationship is when it is inappropriate. When there is no justification for any jealousy at all, but one of the partners is feeling jealous then it can easily become a self fulfilling prophesy… a jealousy relationship breakup.

Being accused, falsely, of something on a continual basis has the effect of pushing a couple apart.

Because there is nothing to answer for, it is very difficult, if not impossible, to defend against an accusation that is false, and on a continual basis, just wears the accused down.

In the end, they may as well be doing whatever they are being accused of, at least then they can put up some kind of defense.

Unfounded jealousy stems from a lack of confidence. If you are the one being jealous when your partner has done nothing to merit your jealousy, then it’s your lack of confidence that will have to be dealt with.

Relationship counselors are trained to help you both when this happens. They will give you an understanding of your problem and help you find the real reasons behind your lack of self-confidence. Dealing with the real issues is always the best way to heal a relationship.

The same is true if you’re at the receiving end of a jealous partner. Convince them to seek counselling, go with them to the counselling session as you will both benefit from understanding this condition.

You never know, you may be, unintentionally, doing something that’s causing your partner to feel jealous. A relationship counselor will help you discover these things, it could be something very simple to fix.

If the feelings of jealousy aren’t strong enough to cause the relationship to breakup, you would still be better off dealing with these feelings and getting rid of the jealousy.

Take a good look at those things that trigger your jealousy and ask yourself how realistic the threat is. What evidence do you have that your relationship is in danger? And is your behavior actually making your situation worse and being the cause of the danger?

Just remember, jealousy heightens emotions, this can make love feel stronger and sex more passionate, but only if it happens infrequently and is relatively mild. Otherwise, there is a very big chance of the jealousy relationship breakup becoming a reality.

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The Always Arguing Relationship Breakup

The Relationship Breakup Caused By Arguments

Author: +Freddie Cook

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photo credit: johntrainor
Always arguing is a common reason for relationship breakups, but the breakup needn’t be terminal. Although differences of opinion are normal and healthy in adult relationships, some couples take this to extremes.

We all know a couple that constantly argue and bicker with each other, they have probably split up a few times and get back together again each time. Somehow, these relationships very often last in the long run.

Their arguments are usually over trivial things that don’t really matter much. Arguing, in their case, has simply become a habit, a method of communicating with each other, you could almost describe it as recreational arguing.

This type of arguing is fairly non-destructive to the relationship, it’s the couples who have more meaningful and more aggressive arguments, probably better described as fights, that we’ll be discussing here because these are more destructive and the breakup is often permanent.

We might wish for an ideal relationship and for our partner to be perfect in every way, fulfilling all our needs and desires. We might wish for it but it would be unreasonable to expect that such a person actually exists.

Anyway, if your partner was truly like that wouldn’t you just get bored with them? The truth is that we all need a challenge, not just with our partner, but in every area of our lives that we need to be interesting. . . Perfection isn’t interesting.

That is where the real difference lies in a relationship that is slowly being destroyed because of arguments and fights. These conflicts are not generating any interest, they are not even finding any kind of resolution. They never end.

The problem is often caused by stress, for example a lack of money, work worries, family issues, and they are not being dealt with effectively. The stress leads to arguments.

Arguing or Fighting?

The arguments themselves are not the problem, it’s how they are conducted. At the end of the day, it’s a lack of true communication. When a couple talk ‘at’ each other instead of ‘to’ each other, it is always a source of conflict.

Being too intent in getting your own point of view across without any regard for what the other is saying is not communication. This is an argument with no end in sight.

One argument like this is a cause for concern in any relationship, but when almost every discussion ends up in one of these arguments, then the relationship breakup is inevitable.

What can be done to save an always arguing relationship from breaking up?

This is an ideal relationship to benefit from couple counselling. Relationship counselors are professionally trained experts and they really excel at getting couples talking effectively again.

They will sit down with you both and mediate in a way that will bring about constructive conversation and will get to the real root of your relationship problems without it becoming heated. You will be treated in a strictly confidential and non-judgmental fashion.

Thousands of couples each day benefit from seeking help with a relationship counselor. There is an endless list of relationship problems that couple counselors can help you with, they are not restricted to simply helping with argument issues.

Even if you have already gone through the breakup, they can help you get your ex back and fix your relationship. So, whatever your problem is, from the always arguing relationship breakup to advice for getting back together after an affair, seeking the help of a relationship counselor can be the answer.

But, counselors are not for everyone. A lot of couples are too uncomfortable baring their soul in front of strangers. They prefer to work through problems on their own. This is where buying a DIY solution is preferred. . . There are many of them out there, some better than others and it can be difficult making an informed choice. . . so, for what it’s worth, this is the one I prefer, mainly because it works and has a high success rate.

I hope this has helped you on your way to a successful conclusion.

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